Tip #4 I have a baby – now what???

November 10th, 2011 → 12:16 pm @

This question was asked to me by my sister who was expecting. Actually, she asked me “What do I do with my baby in the first couple of weeks?” – And it’s a good question. I mean, what do you do with your newborn? All of a sudden you are a mom, just like that. Here’s your baby – figure it out…

For some, it’s a natural flow. For others, a step by step guide could be useful (though we all know there is no step to step guide for kids).


This is the answer I wrote in my book Babies 0-6 months. It’s the first question of the book and links to a number of other Q&A’s that are related – so what you are about to read is only part of the story…


During the first weeks, your baby will be adapting to her new environment and will be sleeping most of the day and night. If she’s not sleeping she’ll be drinking and if she’s not drinking or sleeping then she’ll be looking around, usually quietly before falling asleep again. You’ll be changing her diaper regularly, bathing her and putting her clothes on (which can be time consuming while you get used to her little parts). You will also need a lot of rest -  so take advantage of her sleeping time to sleep yourself. Your baby will slowly have more “awake” time and will start to engage with you and be more interested in looking around and exploring with her eyes.


Of course this answer is for an average baby. It doesn’t mention that some babies cry a lot, have heavy cramping etc.  I’ll be posting more about that in the next tips…

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Tip #3 What is Tummy Time and why is it necessary?

November 7th, 2011 → 12:19 pm @

I hated tummy time. Well actually, my babies didn’t seem to like tummy time. I tried everything to make it entertaining: got down on my tummy myself, put the super BabyEinstein baby mozart video on, made noise – you name it – well almost…

Often they cried while on their tummy in the first month but then the got the hang of it, got stronger and spent more time on their tummies…

Here’s the answer from my book:

Since babies sleep on their backs (which can lower the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS)) and spend more time in their car seats, buggies etc. on their backs (than before), tummy time is very important from day 1.  During the day, while you are in the room, place your baby on her stomach (in a crib, or on a soft blanket somewhere safe) and let her spend time on her tummy.  This helps your baby’s neck muscles develop as she tries to turn or lift her head up. It can be difficult and uncomfortable in the beginning for your baby to do but you can encourage this by lying in front of her and showing her toys or making a noise to get her to turn her head.  Start with 3-5 minutes, 2-3 times a day and build up from there. A good time to do this is after she’s had a nap or after changing a diaper but not on a full stomach. This is also the foundation for many developmental milestones such as sitting up, crawling, walking.

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Tip #2 My newborn has zits?

October 31st, 2011 → 12:26 pm @

Just when she was starting to look into the camera and move her lips upwards, the “zits” started… Wasn’t their most attractive time as a newborn but just when I started thinking it would never go away – it did!

Here is the answer from my book

This is common and is called “baby acne” and appears on the face and chest area of the body usually around 2-4 weeks after birth.  It’s caused by the hormonal adjustments taking place in your new baby. Keep your baby’s face clean (some say you can put your breast milk on the acne to help it clear up).  The acne is not dangerous though doesn’t make for a pretty newborn picture.. It will eventually clear up itself and can take a couple of weeks but sometimes as long as 3-4 months and may come and go. If your baby is scratching her face make sure her nails are nice and short or put on small mittens.

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Tip #1 Why is night day and day night in my newborn’s mind?

October 13th, 2011 → 12:34 pm @

Did you notice in the first weeks after your baby was born that she seemed to have an opposite wake/sleep schedule.  I mean, a lot of things make sense in the pregnancy/birth process, but this one?  I fail to understand why babies were designed to do this.

We need sleep. Lots of sleep to be able to manage every day life with babies (and kids).

Here is the answer I wrote in my book about this:

You may find that your newborn is more awake and alert at night and more sleepy during the day. This often has to do with his routine in utero. For example, if your baby was really active at night it will likely keep that pattern after being born.  To help him adapt to “real time”, try to engage with him more during the day, keep a bit of light in his bedroom while he’s having day naps and don’t be too worried about your every day noise during the day. At night, don’t engage… just feed and put back to bed, change diaper if necessary using as little light as possible. In the period of a couple of days to a couple of weeks he should adapt to regular day and night rhythm.


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