In light of my 4 year old starting school and me not being ready to let go of our now useless buggy – I thought it was appropriate to continue with this next tip/question.
Is it possible to spoil my newborn by holding her too much?
Someone described the first 3 months after birth as being like the 4th trimester. It’s a great way to look at it. Your baby is learning to live outside of your tummy – she needs time, comfort, you.
These first months were my favorite – I loved holding my newborns, loved carrying them close to me in my wrap, loved having them fall asleep on my chest while I was laying on the couch. I don’t believe that you can spoil a newborn. We still have very huggable kids. Even our 8 year old boy loves to cuddle And the kids love to hug each other. Maybe due to all of that cuddling they got as newborns? Or maybe we are just really really lucky.
Here’s the answer that I wrote in my book:
No. Remember that your baby has just spent 9 months in a very comfortable, warm and safe place. It’s natural to hold your baby a lot and keep her close to you. I do not believe that it’s a good thing to let your baby cry for long periods so that she can get used to being away from you. Your baby is used to hearing your heartbeat and to smelling you. Enjoy these first months – before you know it you’ll be begging your child for a hug…